Top 5 Ways to Find a Great Asian Man
Many women complain about the inability to find good asian men. Thus, they decide to go to an asian matchmaker. However, there are other ways to find a great asian man. Here are 10 of the best ways.
1. Try out a new hobby – Stop going to the same places to find and meet men. If you are always going to the same bar or club or restaurant, then you are probably running into the same men who go there too. If you want to meet someone new, you need to do something different. Try finding a new hobby. If you’ve always been curious about learning to play golf or tennis, then start taking lessons and see if other people are on the court. In order to meet someone new, you need to go where they are going.
2. Go on the second date – Your first date with that asian man could have been extremely lousy. So, try going on a second date. Many asian men don’t make a great first impressions. Sometimes, it’s because they are so nervous, they can’t be themselves. Try going on that second date or the third date and see how they are. You may find that they relax a lot more and show their true selves.
3. Get over their looks – Yes, asian men are not always the hottest guys out there. But, the great asian man could be sweet, nice and everything you are looking for. If you want to find an asian man, get over how they look. Don’t worry about the glasses or the clothes. You can change all of that!
4. Don’t just look for the hottest asian guy out there – Lots of times, a hot asian guy is so full of himself that he won’t be nice to you. Instead, he is too into himself and he’ll date you and dump you really fast. If you want a great asian man, look for the guy that is not as hot. Look for someone who will treat you well. Think about their personality, not their looks.
5. Check out your asian male friends again – Have a lot of asian male friends but not dating any of them? You just might have the best asian man right in front of your face. If you are friends with him, if you have a great time, if you know each other really well, why not try dating him? What are you waiting for? Don’t just think of him as a friend. He may turn out to be the greatest boyfriend ever, especially since he knows you so well.
So, what has been the best way you’ve found your asian man? If you have other ways, share them with us today.
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Asian Matchmaking Criteria Guide
The interesting thing about Asian matchmaking is that oftentimes, there are so many more criteria than regular matchmaking. First, you have your own set of criteria about the person you want to be with. Then, on top of that, there is the criteria that is specifically Asian. Finally because you are Asian, you often have another set of criteria – your parent’s criteria – to think about. All of this adds up to a ton of criteria that does not help you achieve success in being matched up. When working with your Asian matchmaker, make sure you think through your criteria before meeting with him or her. Here’s a guide to help you sort through all of the criteria.
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Your own criteria: This is the most important thing. What do you want in a mate? What are you looking for? First, think about yourself. What do you like? What are your interests? What makes you happy? What do you prefer to do on a daily basis? What type of person would enhance your life? To make it easier, think about the friends and family you get along with. What do you really like about them? What about them makes you happy? The person you date will most likely have some similar characteristics to people you already know and love. Your own criteria is key to finding a great match. You must know yourself and what you want, but also be open to new things. Sometimes, you may think you want someone exactly like you, with the same interests and personal habits. However, many people have found that someone who is their opposite is perfect for them. Therefore, when thinking through your own criteria, try to make this a short list. Don’t make it too extensive or too detailed. Just make it the top 3 things that you would really want to see in a potential mate.
Asian criteria: This next set is specific to being Asian. If you are an Asian person, know and understand what type of Asian person you are looking for. First, are you only looking for somebody who has the same ethnicity as you? If you are Korean, are you only looking for someone who is Korean? Or are you open to a few more ethnicities and if so, which ones? Next, what type of Asian person are you looking for? Do you want someone who was born in the United States and grew up here? Or do you want someone who just immigrated over? Think through your own personal life experiences and think about your own background. Then, consider what type of Asian immigrant you want. More often than not, this criteria is pretty key to you. You rarely see an American born Asian person date someone who just moved over from Asia. Most of the time, this is because there are differences in language, culture and backgrounds and therefore you have less understanding of the other person. Sometimes, this makes it perfect for a great relationship, but other times, it makes it really hard. Therefore, know your Asian criteria.
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Asian parent’s criteria: For Asian children, this is one of the hardest criteria. Most Asian parents have very simple but strict criteria. They want their children to date someone that is the same ethnicity and has a good education, a good job, and from a good family. That is it. It sounds simple, but each one comes with difficulties. First, for Asian parents, they do not care about whether or not your future husband or wife just moved here from Asia or was born here. They only care that they are the same ethnicity as you. If you are Chinese, they want your mate to be Chinese. Second, when it comes to good education, they mean a top 10 or maybe top 20 University and possibly a higher degree. This means that they would prefer a person that want to an Ivy League school or someone who had an M.D., J.D., or an MBA. Next is a good job. For them a good job is one that makes a lot of money. Although this may sound shallow, you see it time and time again. The Asian parent wants their child to marry someone who makes a lot of money. If their child is a girl, this is a must. If their child is a boy, then this can be overlooked for the final criteria. The final criteria is very traditional. The Asian parents want their sons and daughters to marry someone from a good family. By this, they mean that the family is stable, well educated, and pretty well off. This is the same thing that Asian families looked for in the old times and it is still something that they think about now.
All of these criteria come from countless Asian parents, especially the ones that are first generation and have immigrated from Asia. Although you may have heard them time and time again, try to make your own criteria your first priority. Try not to strive to only please your parents, otherwise, you may not be happy. Remember, these are your parent’s criteria, not your own.
There is a lot of criteria that you can put forth when talking to a matchmaker. Try not to demand too many criteria as it will impede the matchmaking process. Asian matchmaking is an even trickier process. Keep an open mind and try to narrow down your criteria to just the key things that will make you happy.
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What is an Asian matchmaker?
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Asian matchmakers have been around for hundreds of years. A long time ago, they were the primary way for women and men to get married. Parents would bring their unmarried daughters to the matchmaker, and the matchmaker would come up with a good match, based on the daughter’s family, personality, and individual assets. These matchmakers served as the primary liaison between families in the same or different villages. They would oftentimes present the idea of a match to the other family so that both families could save face in case one decided to reject the offer. Additionally, the Asian matchmaker would negotiate the woman’s dowry and the final wedding details.
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These days, the Asian matchmaker takes many forms and involves many different types of services. First, they can be online or offline. The online form has taken on increasing popularity as more young Asian people become open to the idea of meeting people online. The online services tend to be more general. You are matched with people more quickly, but usually there is not a person that matches, but a computer algorithm. You don’t receive the personalized attention of an offline matchmaker, but many times, you will get a wider breadth of people.
The online matchmaker requires a lot of patience and work from your end. You will be expected to answer many questions, input your interests, and sort through many different individuals that will be suggested as potential matches. You will spend a lot of time online, filling out forms, emailing, and learning more about potential matches. After the online part is concluded, you will oftentimes be set up with potential mates. The benefit is that the online matchmaker is less intrusive. There will not be a person that you must check in with or talk to. Also, you can meet and date as many people as you want on your own timeline.
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The offline matchmaker is the most common form that is thought of when you think of an Asian matchmaker. This will be a person that you meet face to face. Most of the time it will be a woman. She will take her own assessment of you and use her own methods to match you to the right person. She will provide one on one personal services which works well for people who want more individual, personalized attention. Usually, she will also have a photo album of possible prospects for you to look through. These services can range from $100 to $500 and more. Oftentimes, couples who are successfully married are also expected to pay the matchmaker an additional bonus in order to promote good fortune and luck.
The Asian matchmaker that you meet in person will usually ask a series of questions about your background, your interests, and what you are looking for in a spouse. She will also, oftentimes, ask about your family. This is definitely something more Asian than western, since Asian people place great emphasis on families when considering and thinking about marriage. Finally, after the series of questions, the Asian matchmaker will come up with a few people to introduce you to. Sometimes, that matchmaker will even go with you to the first meeting between you and your potential mate. It really depends on the matchmaker’s style and how she chooses to match you. Before you sign up with an Asian matchmaker, think about what style you prefer and ask her what her matchmaking process is including how she will select the mate, whether or not you will be set up on your own or in a group, and how her fees work.
Both offline and online services can be found through word of mouth, searching online, or general referrals. It is hard to determine how successful these services are, however, a brief interview is helpful in assessing the service to see if the service works for you. Two key questions are how many successful couples the service has introduced and how many people the service has available to match with you. These numbers change all of the time, but you want at least 100 successful matches and 25 available individuals, if not more. Also, check to see if there is an introductory period where you can test out the services. Online services almost always offer this, although offline services generally do not. Finally, know what you are looking for in a mate so you can carefully determine if that service fits your needs.
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